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Amanda O'Shaughnessy
Communications Manager and Writer based in London. Tackling womanhood, empowerment and mental health with a background in beauty and wellness.

What alarms me most is that he’s not giving any cues to your face. You say the screen door incident left him incensed according to what he wrote to her, but if you’d never have read that you’d never have guessed.

I’m reading a lot about a woman who gives him a lot of care, attention and leg room. I’m also getting the impression he’s caring too and pulls his weight in other ways. But the narrative he’s feeding the other woman feels like there’s a deep resentment and a deep fear of confrontation at play. …


Beautiful article, Kaitlyn! I love how you've rightly explained it's about fairly attributing the problem. No finger pointing. Only acceptance that there's an issue as the first step to truly healing the pains that stem from it.


This is what’s needed if they’re really genuine about advocating for women. Using their influence, power and fortune to further agendas that benefit women from all walks of life. Otherwise it’s just performative. As you say, efforts seem slow and the product diversity when it comes to sizing and for all types of bodies doesn't seem to be changing with this enough. Time will be the true test of this move...


This is really brave and reflective, Shannon. The whole history doesn't sit well for so many reasons. The fact that Chrissy made her reasons very public when she temporarily quit Twitter recently. This could have been an ideal time to reflect on her-not-so-polished past.

But also the comments themselves are incredibly troubling and disturbing. Wishing suicide or death on someone is an intense and awful thing to think, never mind actively write to someone. Granted, she's had 10 years to reflect, grow, evolve, and improve. But in the moment of being called out, turning it back onto herself feels narcissistic and not at all earnest. I'm not seeing growth in this at all.


This is such an honest and thought-provoking piece, Laura! It's an uncomfortable aspect to confront, but you've hit the nail on the head. Women are victims of the constructs built, and we get caught up in - and become an active part of - the problem subconsciously.


Love this article! It's a great point - the lines are blurred. I think I'd be lying when I say I exercise solely for my health and endorphins. There's always an aspect of vanity involved, it's sadly hardwired into us whether we like it or not.


For some of us, the path to parenthood isn’t always clear-cut.

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There appears to be a very real baby boom happening. The baby news among friends, peers, and National Health Service antenatal appointment stats in the last few months are all living proof. But the reality I live in, one where I am no more certain about having children than I was in my 20s (I’ve just celebrated my 36th birthday), means this steep change has brought my indecisiveness into very sharp, prodding, and uncomfortable focus.

And it turns out, I don’t particularly like confronting the decision, the biological or the societal pressures. Yet to not consider parenthood seriously feels like…


Thank you for writing and sharing this. It's brilliant to learn of clinics created especially to provide support for this, but saddened by the fact that ultimately, many will only have access to the standard services that leave many feeling this way. It would be brilliant to see the healthcare professionals involved trained to better cope and carefully handle the needs of victims, and for those involved in campaigning to realise meeting fear by inciting more fear just isn't the right route.


THIS!!! I confess I giggled at those moments, but what I always found uncomfortable was the episode where Monica verbalises that if she hadn’t lost weight, would Chandler have ever considered her. Yet she's the one left apologising for the toe incident which ultimately overshadows Chandler's cruel comments and all is forgotten!...


This is an eyeopener. I've disregarded opportunities seen, thinking I'd need background and thorough understanding of the genre / area in hand. But your point on your journey into personal injury law is inspired. You're right, it's your ability as a writer to be able to channel the purpose and emotional elements which are where you bring the content to life.

Amanda O'Shaughnessy

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